Stages of a healthy dating relationship

In short, Adjusting to Reality is the stage where the Real Relationship begins.3.

THE POWER STRUGGLEAs the disillusionment of the Adjusting to Reality stage deepens, the couple tends to have more disagreements. Yelling appears for the first time, if it ever will.

Very few of them were ok with a strict lover arrangement.

All others wanted more than that and whenever I had the nerve to show or say to them that I was not into more than a lover arrangement I simply lost the girl either because she would cut me off or because I would not further pursue her..

ROMANTIC LOVEThis is the love that Hollywood loves to promote as the only kind of love. There is a tremendous emphasis on maximizing similarities and minimizing differences.

There is a belief and expectation that you will provide most or all of my wants, needs, desires.

After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website.

When attempting to create a loving, healthy intimate relationship, it is important to have an accurate roadmap for the journey.

Sometimes it is planning a wedding, buying a house, or sharing finances.

Whatever the cause, after the conflict occurs, it becomes impossible to continue the fantasy that this person and this relationship are immune from struggle, from effort, from reality.

Differences which were previously obscured suddenly become visible.

Conflicts, anxieties, disappointment and hurt replace the effortless flow of the Romantic stage.

Most of our culture’s roadmaps have emphasized fantasy, illusion and denial, and those who follow those maps will tend to have unhappy, conflict-ridden relationships.

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